I Am Not Average But Am I Beautiful?

The other day my friend paid me a compliment....and a rather depressing blank fact.

'Your face looks the same but...well, your body shape may have 'altered' but your face remains the same'.

The funny thing is that it didn't make me want to wolf down slimming pills or go for a marathon. It made me feel like I didn't want to undress and look in the mirror and I DID for a fraction of a second think that something should be done to 'correct' this situation. Maybe something should be done...but not for the reason I started to believe about myself.

The truth is, however, I snapped out of it and laughed along with my friend who was being frank with me. I decided to accept the 'your face looks the same' compliment (I hope and pray to God that she also meant that my face has not been mangled by age and the evil that is gravity). Maybe a little, I mean, come on. Hashtag #RealityCheck (Can't believe I just did that in a blog post! LOL)

I am no longer 20, a fact that I live with with every creak of my spine and back, arms, legs, neck, knee, elbow....it's not possible for me to expect to have the face of a 20 year old....no matter how many 'V' signs I flash and duck face I pull.

But do I have to apologize or feel bad about motherhood? Pregnancy? For aging? For being a kind human being to myself?

I know this is not everyone's cup of tea, I know and it's OK. Some like Boh Tea, some like Chamomile, some like Lavender, some like Jasmine. I like 'kind' tea. Some people prefer the 'let's give gravity a run for its money and live till we are 1000 years old and still look 25' method. Well....I hope you find Edward Cullen soon. Maybe Bella needs company, away from that pesky mind-reading sister-in-law.

In case you've not heard of him, here's his mugshot. I heard he sparkles and that's kinda hard to miss, really.

Edward Cullen. He bites but...let him.

Jokes aside, there was something Dove did that I think we should emulate everyday. Learn to love ourselves and believe that we are beautiful. And although the video and experiment did not elaborate much about what those people who walked through the door on the left got out of it, we can make a very good guess, can't we?

Elation. Confidence. A big smile. A fist pump and maybe a hug with the friend who walked through the left door with you.

Just like you, I would have walked through the 'Average' door myself and it is, maybe, time for us to start asking ourselves 'why'.

For those who are viewing on your mobile devices, if you can't view the video and is interested, here it is on CNN.

Love,
Marsha

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