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Forty-something Is Too Late

Call it midlife crisis, call it depression but I know of a forty-something man who hit it, wallowed in it and considered suicide as a means to an end many times over. Each time the thought entered his head, he entertained the idea, mulled over each detail carefully, planned out each stage carefully and practiced it. And each time the time came for him to carry out his plan, his plans were disrupted. Most of the time, an unplanned event intervened. Sometimes it was a friend. One time, it was a car accident that shook him out of his disheartening plan. When I spoke to Kevin, this friend my mine, about life, his version of things was nothing less than gloomy. Sometimes he would speak to me about his ideas and plans. Whenever I started to get enthusiastic or excited about his plans, he would say, “Nah…it’s too early to be dreaming. I’m not eighteen anymore. You don’t start something at forty-something. Most of the people my age are already enjoying whatever they have started in their twenties or thirties. Here I am, at forty-something and thinking of starting something as absurd as this…I’ll be laughing stock of the world”. Continue Reading (


Mumsgather said…
Who says fourty something is too late? I just turned 42. I've been learning piano for the first time every for one year now and I am enjoying it so much. Theres so much I want to start on too, baking, gardening,... I could go on and on. Oh, they're by no means ground shaking things but they're still starting something right? And I have no qualms at starting it at over the age of 40. I am happy to at last have the opportunity to start them. The rest, I shall wait till my kids are older and I have a bit more time, then maybe, I'll start at age 50. Haha.
Marsha Maung said…
mumsgather, right on!!! the gym and the piano....why are we so alike? :-)YES, I believe that if a seventy-year-old man is willing, he can climb mount everest if he wants to.

but he better inform his doctor and prepare meds...just in case. but if a person lets go of restraints and just go for something that they really want to do, it's possible.

anything is possible.

well, except for stopping an earthquake, tsunami....well, mother nature in general. mother nature is a very fierce lady, you know, never challenge her. but other than that, everything 'yau tuck kheng'. :-)

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