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Popping a Girl

So….when are you going to try to pop another one, a girl this time to complete the package?” someone asked me earlier during a family gathering. I choked on the heated reply boiling on top of my head and managed to cringe politely. “No, no. No thanks. Close shop indefinitely. Tutup kedai”, I answered. I don’t know what it is with people. When you have two of a kind, people look at you and have the tendency to suggest that you pop another loaf out to ‘complete the package’. There’s nothing to complete. A family is not a package. To have 2-of-the-same-kind is pretty much the same as having 1-of-each-kind, don’t you think? In case you’re STILL wondering what I am yapping on about here today, it’s about having both sexes for kids. I have lots of friends who have one child (of, apparently, one sex) and two or three kids of the same sex and they have related to me the same predicament. Every family gathering or friendly meeting yields the same result…people would be asking you (if you’re still within the fertile and child-rearing age group) when you’re going to have another one and try for a child of a different sex. Whether the child is a boy or a girl, does it really matter? It’s the same thing and if you spend the time raising the child right, it amounts to a ‘complete package’, anyway. A complete package is all in the mind. As long as we try our best to do what’s right for our kids and ourselves, that’s pretty much enough. And they always tell me something like, “You must have a girl…because boys don’t take care of you when you’re old. It’s not the same wan”. While I think it’s true to a certain extent, I think that’s an unfair stereotype to be cast over men (rare occasion whereby I stand on the men’s side). If you raise the boy well and have a good relationship with your son, there’s absolutely no reason why your son would not take care of you. And besides, our kids are not and should not be our safety nets. We don’t have kids so that there’s someone to take care of us later on. I don’t intend to be my kids’ burden later on and am working towards building a fund for myself and the kids later on in life. So, to me, having a girl to complete the package is not on the cards…it’s not even important, actually. Girl or boy, as long as there’s love and proper education, works out to be pretty much the same thing.
Credit: Photo of Pacifier found from this site


Jamie said…
aiyooo...I always get these types of questions oso but used to it liao...I dun really blame others for asking me becos they are just showing their concern OR just trying to strike up a conversation ( maybe after too long a period of no see). I truly think that its a "no harm done" type of question if one doesn't delve on it..

giving birth = hell,
bringing up = torture, torture, insane, happiness, happines, happiness but damn 99 tough and not that all easy...the pain is worth it..

Just My Two Cents..
Anonymous said…
My family has 5 boys and 1 girl. The most useless is the girl. She never appreciates what my parents did for her. Instead...she condemns my parenst to all my siblings!!

Teh 5 boys in my family are very good to our parents. What does that show?

Doesn't not mean having a daughter is good. In my family...having a daughter is the worst!

To all those morons who kept saying that daughers will take care you when you are old....go have more daughters. See whether they will jaga you when you old!

Jamie said…
Killer: very well said!! its not the gender that will determine who will jaga you in the end but the way they were brought up..
Anonymous said…
Jamie...i've seen far more obediant sons than daughters. ust coz they are girls does not mean they are angels.

Marsha Maung said…
jamie, killer, Ahem! Last I checked, I am still a girl....


...then again, I am far from obedient so you're probably right! LOL
Anonymous said… will ALWAYS be a matter how old you are. Unless you have a 'secret wish' to wanna have a batang 24hours day between the legs ? hehehe....


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