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Loosening The Grip

Last night, I went out to have a couple of drinks with my girl friends, and was once again LOVINGLY accused of babying my kids. Honestly, I know I do. I know I do, I know I do, I know I do! But you don't understand how it is like and what the transition feels like until you come face to face with it. You are caught in a situation whereby you understand what is happening but don't know what are the appropriate steps to take.

You see, my beloved accusers friends know that this is the normal thing...we have all been there...on the other side of the fence. One of them is single (and LOOKING, just in case you are curious. ^^ ) and the other just had her son not long ago. I am the only one facing Tweenhood and it sucks that nobody understands what shit situation this feels like. Guess talking to my mom would be the one way to go but I am hesitant because....well....because I was the one giving her the same treatment, right? LOLOL!!!

But I find some form of comfort in knowing that many other parents are as clueless as I am. For example, Ann Harrison here just blogged about her and her growing daughter's struggle with communication over the phone about her daughter's after school plans and such.

I am not saying that my kids are horrible and my friends are judgmental. They are all beautiful and I wouldn't trade them and their loving accusations for the world! Nope, nuh-uh. But this is difficult, I am telling you because right now communication has to be clear and careful. As a parent, I need to dig into the mind of a teen and find out how it works. Mine's been auto-tuned to the extent that I have a death grip on everything. I understand being a steel magnolia is not a good thing but but but...

...you know what I mean.



Happy weekend, everyone!
Marsha
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