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Work : Flip the Script on Multitasking

It's a consistent struggle to work from home as a single mother - to work, to clean, to cook or to exercise. It's one or the other. They tell you that multitasking saves lives and the bible of being productive dictates that women were MADE for stuff like these.

I'll save the gender talk for another time, though. XD

But the truth is, the combination of tasks that you're doing is going to fight for your attention, each validating their reasons for being more important than the other.
When you perform multiple tasks that each require some of the same channels of processing, conflicts will arise between the tasks, and you're going to have to pick and choose which task you're going to focus on and devote a channel of processing to it - Joe Robinson, The result, for most parts, is half-hearted or incomplete everythings. Just like our WiFi, we would eventually come up with a bandwidth problem and something's got to give. This is not to say that yo…
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Mission : Reboot Malaysia

For me, it started the last election, or to be more precise, BEFORE the last election. It was when I realized that I had the power to make changes in this country and we have all been living in this self-induced indifference all these while. 
We've, people like me, have never voted despite having the chance to. We've been marginalized and sidelined for as long as we've known but we've also accepted it as fate. You don't have to take it from me, take it from Jennifer Pak on BBC with her piece on Will Malaysia's Brain Drain Block Its Economic Ambitions?

Seeking Open Doors Where Doors Would Open Because of the very scary racial clashes of May 13, 1969, which people of my parent's generation continue to 'fear' and 'mentally block out', people have generally looked away whenever there was injustice and accepted it as their deck of cards.

We just have to work very hard, harder than everyone else, to move away and make our livelihood 'somewher…

Alcohol + Bad Judgement

It's Sunday and tomorrow's another day. Things are starting to sink in little by little but let's just keep things on the uppity here. Sometimes, this is what I feel like saying to my boys. #lol #jk #pleasedontbutthurt #ilovemykids
Happy Sunday, people! Love, Marsha

Everything In Life Will Be Taken Away

Last week today, on a Thursday when I was on the way back from dropping the kids off at school, my cousin passed away in the hospital at 8.10am.

Things have moved on, we've done our best to send her off to her next journey. A journey we foresaw and had hoped would not come too soon but did.

She fought really hard against cancer, every single day she was alive, she fought it with everything she had. With herself, with the doctors and with her God. She wanted to stay. That's what makes it sad when during her final moments, she saw it coming. She knew she was defeated. The fight was over.

In a way, her passing was a relief to her. It was a bloody painful journey for her. And it brought many of us down to our knees.

For a few days, even when we were all trying so hard to be strong, to smile and trying to keep it together for everyone else who DID NOT see it coming (not everyone knew she had cancer so, to them, it was an even bigger shock), it's like we still had a fort around …

Cooking : Quick, Light & Refreshing Mushroom Stew (slow cooker Shakshouka Spin-off)

This is gonna be a quick one. Gotta run, gotta run, gotta run....

Anyway, this shashouka recipe's been sitting on my desk for some time and I just didn't think anything of it despite the video looking absolutely epicurean. I took it from Food Wishes which also has a Youtube Channel.

I have to admit that I sometimes I watch Food Wishes videos to sleep because 'Chef John' is hilarious and snarky. And I like his chilled out vibe, his laid-back attitude of 'If you want salty, put more salt. I'm not there to stop you' and his don't-overthink-this-shit mentality to cooking.

Trust me, it makes cooking less stressful.

So, I bought a packet of fresh mushrooms from the store without knowing what to do with them (yet) when I was there a few days ago (we keep doing this, don't we? LOL) so, when I saw the recipe again, ah well, time to get off my laurels.... XD
I skipped the eggs not because I don't like eggs, but because I have leftover roast chicken. Throw…

The Blank Canvas : Kuvshinov Ilya (Drawing)

I have deep admiration, like from the tip of toes nails to the tip of every strand of my hair, for people who draw. They're like people who write, except being visual.

As I've learned, people who draw would often start with a blank canvas and a vague story in their heads. A vision. A mirage. A lot like writing.

I can imagine but I can't draw to save my life. I tried, Good Lord, I tried and the Lord spoke to me when I was 8 and asked me to just....stop. #lol

But it didn't stop me from writing and devouring books. You can't stop Imagination and a part of my mind was (it still does this cloud-flying thing, though) always living in the clouds, creating up things that vaguely resemble what I've just recently read in a book or seen on TV where I put my own spin to it. Back then, believe it or not, it more often than not involved a knight in shining armor.

I fly less blind and with more wisdom now, I would like to think.

Imagination is an extremely powerful thing, as …

Update: April 1st Birthday 2018

Like every year, April 1st is a special day for this family: Both my kids share the same birthday with my mom - 3 April Fools. LOL

It was fruitfully spent together and that's the most important thing. We got what we wanted (it took about 2 days, but well worth the endless waiting and checking), ate at our favorite restaurant (it was a buffet and the kiddos definitely ate as much as they can!), and just chilled out.

Like my son said, 'It's a very fruitful, happy birthday'. I agree. =)

My request for a #birthday#selfie#wefie with the boys were met! It took only 12 takes. Lol! The boys turning 18 and 16 this year and I sometimes wonder how, when, and what. It's not always an easy journey but we made it this far and we only have to concentrate on doing our best. That's all that is required. To fall, get up, cuddle, say you're sorry and repeat. I am forever blessed to be so loved. Happy birthday to the 2 wonderful men in my life ❤️❤️❤️♥️♥️♥️
We would normally hav…