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Reaching Out For Help When The Road Gets Rough



By Charlie Tranchemontagne

“Pain is not a sign of weakness, but bearing it alone is a choice to grow weak.” ~Lori Deschene

There was a time in my life when I struggled to share my pain. I actually took great pride in how stubborn I had become. It wasn’t until I started looking within myself that these prideful attitudes started to shift. Actually, my whole life started to change.

Once I started my journey of self-discovery, I no longer wanted to deal with my pain by myself. I slowly reached out to others and asked them for help.

It was in asking for help and sharing my pain with others that I felt myself getting stronger.

I didn’t expect, however, that I’d need to ask for help repeatedly.

In August of 2006, I was with a small group of people inside a airplane hanger that was used as a classroom to give instruction for skydiving. Worn-out couches and old beanbag chairs formed  a circle where we gathered. The décor on the walls was something you’d find in a local head shop that sold 60’s and 70’s paraphernalia.

A positive vibe filled the room, as a young instructor prepped us on the safety procedures needed for jumping out of the plane.

It had been sixteen years since I had made my first jump. When I shared this information with the instructor, she asked me, “What took you so long to come back?”

I didn’t respond out loud, but simply smiled. I wasn’t brave enough to explain why I had come back this time.

Initially, I jumped in the fall of 1990 as a way for me to turn my life over to  a higher power; that jump marked the beginning of my inner journey.

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