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Abandoned Women

This is a bit of a somber post but that is because I've been listening to, hearing, trying to understand a type of phenomenon.

I knew that men abandon their families before. They've abandoned their wives, yes, but families is quite another thing. When it happens to someone else, you hear about it and sympathize with these women and kids, it's different. When you see it happen to a friend or someone you love, it is quite another story.

I don't get it. Why are men the way they are, completely listening to their libido all the time? Can't they have a decent responsible bone in their body and not listen to the one single bone that listens to hormones? Is that 'love'?

So yes. Some people I know, I have come to see and understand, are left completely on their own. Left to deal with a family that was meant to be a fairy tale one. Dreams turned turtle. Home wrecked. Kids unloved. Women struggling to keep it together and holding fort.

Well, fine. Sometimes, it is the other way around, like the woman who left her kid for London and then coming back to claim the daughter? As a woman, I sympathize with her but she made her choice many years ago and she should not come back to haunt the child and father who stuck it together all those years. She made her choice and has to be held accountable for abandoning her family. Violence and abuse or not. She should have dealt with it more prudently.

Thank goodness for organizations like

If you are a woman, being abused emotionally or physically or left without resources, please do not hold it there all on your own. You are not super. In Malaysia, call this hotline: 03 7956 3488.

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