Cute labrador retriever
Becoming a mom is a big responsibility. Well, OK, becoming a parent is a big responsibility, therefore, one should not go into it just because of selfish reasons.
If you want to bring a new life into this world, then you have to be willing to make sacrifices. It is inevitable. Some people have kids because it is just the way it should be. For some, because of pressure from parents, friends or society. Others think that kids are just cute. They want to have one too.
Well, having kids because of pressure from others; think about it, OTHERS are not going to be the one taking care of the kids. You are.
If one has kids just because kids are cute....well...what can I say? They are. :-) But they grow older, you know. And then what? They are cute no more and you don't want them anymore?
Even more deplorable are the ones who have kids because they want to tie their boyfriends down. Trust me, I have known some people like that...quite personally. When things don't work out on the relationship front, what do they do? They run off to GET BACK the life and youth that they have lost.
Look, kids are human beings. It is inhumane to have them and then not love them with all your heart. That is your responsibility. They need love in order to have confidence. Even if you can't provide them with a big mansion, a business that they can take on, overseas education, Nintendo toys and expensive clothes, you have to have the heart to love them and take care of them.
That is what being a parent is about.
Recently, in Malaysia, there is a spat of youths ending up pregnant because they had sex with their boyfriends. And then dumping the babies in rubbish dumps. WTF, right?
Anyway, recently, I was entertaining the thought of having a puppy. My niece got one and the darn thing is SO BLOODY CUTE!!! Gosh....
I had the maturity of giving myself a little bit more time to ponder about it. I thought and thought and thought....no, I will not get a puppy. Not because I don't like having one, I would LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE to have a puppy with me but I know that I cannot and will not be able to give the puppy my full love and attention...at the level that it deserves.
I believe that if I have a puppy, I will not get angry when it poops on the floor or pee on the sofa. I will patiently teach the puppy the right things to do. I will not ask the puppy to go away or smack its backside. If I have a puppy, I will also not mind if there is hair all over the place and slobber on my keyboard.
But I know I can't. I don't want hair on my yoga mat.
So, the humane thing to do is to say.....no, I can't love the puppy with all my heart at this point in time. It wouldn't be fair to deny the puppy complete love.
But gosh, I really want a puppy....
Becoming a mom is a big responsibility. Well, OK, becoming a parent is a big responsibility, therefore, one should not go into it just because of selfish reasons.
If you want to bring a new life into this world, then you have to be willing to make sacrifices. It is inevitable. Some people have kids because it is just the way it should be. For some, because of pressure from parents, friends or society. Others think that kids are just cute. They want to have one too.
Well, having kids because of pressure from others; think about it, OTHERS are not going to be the one taking care of the kids. You are.
If one has kids just because kids are cute....well...what can I say? They are. :-) But they grow older, you know. And then what? They are cute no more and you don't want them anymore?
Even more deplorable are the ones who have kids because they want to tie their boyfriends down. Trust me, I have known some people like that...quite personally. When things don't work out on the relationship front, what do they do? They run off to GET BACK the life and youth that they have lost.
Look, kids are human beings. It is inhumane to have them and then not love them with all your heart. That is your responsibility. They need love in order to have confidence. Even if you can't provide them with a big mansion, a business that they can take on, overseas education, Nintendo toys and expensive clothes, you have to have the heart to love them and take care of them.
That is what being a parent is about.
Recently, in Malaysia, there is a spat of youths ending up pregnant because they had sex with their boyfriends. And then dumping the babies in rubbish dumps. WTF, right?
Anyway, recently, I was entertaining the thought of having a puppy. My niece got one and the darn thing is SO BLOODY CUTE!!! Gosh....
I had the maturity of giving myself a little bit more time to ponder about it. I thought and thought and thought....no, I will not get a puppy. Not because I don't like having one, I would LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE to have a puppy with me but I know that I cannot and will not be able to give the puppy my full love and attention...at the level that it deserves.
I believe that if I have a puppy, I will not get angry when it poops on the floor or pee on the sofa. I will patiently teach the puppy the right things to do. I will not ask the puppy to go away or smack its backside. If I have a puppy, I will also not mind if there is hair all over the place and slobber on my keyboard.
But I know I can't. I don't want hair on my yoga mat.
So, the humane thing to do is to say.....no, I can't love the puppy with all my heart at this point in time. It wouldn't be fair to deny the puppy complete love.
But gosh, I really want a puppy....
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