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Kids Pushed In Every Direction In Today's Society

Some people just don't agree with the way I live my life and the way I raise my kids. I guess I got it my parents who NEVER pushed me in ANY direction that I didn't want to go. They just let me make all the decisions and told me that I could do it if I focused on it. Even if I sucked at something and had the audacity to think that I was good, they let me make my mistake. That is why I simply cannot agree with many parents in today's society. Children who are pushed in every single direction suffer from great emotional and mental distress that parents then ignore. It's like they can't live with themselves if their kids are anything less than SUPER. Oh come of it!!! Every single one of us is born with a special talent and if we let things flow, the kids will discover it all on their own! Without parental intervention. We need to help them be at peace with themselves so that they can discover who they really are. I did not say that....Buddha did. And the last I heard, this dead guy's quite accurate about a lot of things. I provide my kids with a lot of avenue to be free and be themselves. I do not push them because I believe pushing is bad for health. I've been pushed in a lot of directions before (not my family) and trust me, I KNOW it is not good for health. In today's society, the kids are sort of victims because they no longer have the privilege of being kids anymore. Wait, how many times do we get to be kids again? Oh yeah. One. Here are some tips and facts for you to digest:-
  1. Over 150,000 kids are estimated to have some form of mental disorder or instability in the United States alone. So, Asia's even worse than the US, can you imagine the number?
  2. Suicide is the SECOND leading cause of death in young people. SECOND!! I don't know what the leading cause is but...hell, that sounds serious enough to warrant attention, doesn't it?
  3. Behaviors are manifestation of illnesses affecting the mental health. Kids are less equipped to deal with situations like this and triggers so, you'll never know until it's a little too late.
  4. Recognizing the signs and need for balance is important...the same way it is for physical health. In giving your kids space to grow (instead of pushing them in all directions), you will giving your child the chance to live a balanced life.
  5. Teachers are the first ones to see signs of a disorder, speak to your kid's teachers as much as you can.

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