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Kids Emotional Blackmail

A kid just shared a secret with me. Both this kid and his sister confided in me that if they can't get their parents to buy something for them, all the have to do is start crying and kick up a fuss! The more fuss you kick up, the more distressed the parents will be and the faster you will get the thing you want! I looked at them shell-shocked into silence. Huh? They had sly smiles on their faces. No wonder the siblings are famous for their 'tears'....sigh. I shook my finger, shook my head at them and told them that if my kids were to show me something like that, even if I've decided to buy it for them in the first place, they'll negative points for such emotional blackmail. No way on heaven, earth, universe, hell, paradise....etc will I get anything ANYTHING for them if they resort to emotional blackmail. Crying and kicking up a fuss, my kids know, is a one-way-ticket to nowhere. Gosh, all I know right now is that 'thank goodness' they're not my kids. But I laid down the rules here in my house....no kicking up a fuss. It will earn you burnt cookie points. Sheesh....I just hope their parents wake up

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Jamie said…
sorta reminds me of somebody I used to play with when we were small....kekekeke
August 20, 2007 at 5:32 PM
Anonymous said…
My kids have never used emotional blackmail on me but I must say, I am one who is quick to buy them something as soon as they mention it. I am what my dad was with us. We only have to mention something we like, my dad will get us in the car and take us to get what we want, even a bicycle. I can't say we were spoilt but I know with my son, he has not learnt to wait for things as he always had it when he wanted, WHICH I NOW THINK COULD BE PARTLY MY FAULT. :(
August 20, 2007 at 6:20 PM
Anonymous said…
jamie, *blink blink* who??

judy, i am also like you a little bit lah....but if i say no and give a reason, they cannot object. and if they kick up a fuss, lagi no hope!! but normally leh, i will buy. they either have to earn it with 'stars' (good behavior or 100% in school work) or with patience.

I dont think I want them growing up thinking that the world owes them anything.
August 20, 2007 at 8:48 PM
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