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You Won't Regret Not Having Kids

I found my friend posting on Facebook and thought it was hilarious. Hilarious in a way that it-is-so-true-that-it-hurts-and-yet-I-know-where-you-are-coming-from-because-I have-been-there-I-shouldn't-find-it-funny kind of hilarious.

Motherhood is a major thing. MAJOR THING. THIS MAJOR!

You don't get to say 'I quit' in the middle of it all (people who do should grow a conscience or invest in contraceptive, please). When your kid does what the kid in the picture does, you will be judged. You have to find it in yourself to keep your dignity, breathe in, breathe out, breathe some more until the redness in your face, neck and ears go somewhat away.

But it's true. Parenting is not for everyone. And it's not a compulsory thing to do so, I think it's alright to have a kid cat or two and be OK with it.

When I was younger, I've always wondered why it was that this couple I knew from a long time ago never had kids. I thought they had problems but then it was one day revealed to me (through their conversation, not my question - how dare I ask this question!) that they never wanted kids. Not even adopted ones! And why.

They loved to travel and explore the world. And that's what they are doing now, exploring the world, buying a home in a mountain where there are bears in Salt Lake City without having to worry about wild animals eating their children up when they trek along nearby parks and trails. Never having to worry about homework or soiled diapers, milk powders, potty training, kids watching porn, raising a monster citizen and tuition.

They simply do not want kids. At first, some people may view that as 'selfish' but I think it's called 'having a direction in life'.

It's their direction and they deserve to grow in THAT direction if they wished to.

It's great that parents gets all the free hugs, kisses and eternal love (if you're lucky enough) from their kids but sometimes, that's not what people want in their lives. And that's OK. You won't regret it if you're sure of it.



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