Found the following video from Upworthy.com and thought it was...thought-provoking.
Why is it so hard to love yourself?
Someone asked her friends a quite unusual question and it seems as though it should be the simplest to answer but most of these women hesitated.
"What do you really love about yourself?"
We are always quick to point out things we dislike about ourselves and it can be a good thing, for self reflection, for improvement, for change and for a better way to live. But we should also spend some time loving ourselves and acknowledging it. But the sorry situation is that when we do, we are often thought of as selfish, narcissistic, arrogant, over-confident and maybe even obnoxious.
So, we think:-
Maybe it is not obnoxious to think we are really lovely people. Maybe it is actually healthy to be a little in love ourselves and acknowledge that we are good for something. It takes my kids to tell me that I am a decent mom while I think 'Gosh, that dish I cooked sucked bad, it's so salty I will poison my kids with salt...HOMAIGRED!!!!' It takes a good friend to tell me that while I am always a little late but she loves me anyway because I am such a good friend that she has included my name to the list of people who she will want to be a her son's guardian if anything actually happened to her.
Those are huge compliments and yet, I just nod my head and think, 'Yeah, yeah, yeah...you're just saying that'.
I don't think of compliments seriously but then again, I don't think of criticism too seriously either. I ponder them and go 'O....K.... I guess'. But try this if you are like me....ask yourself 'What do you love most about yourself?" and start to feel a little warm and fuzzy inside.
Why is it so hard to love yourself?
Someone asked her friends a quite unusual question and it seems as though it should be the simplest to answer but most of these women hesitated.
"What do you really love about yourself?"
We are always quick to point out things we dislike about ourselves and it can be a good thing, for self reflection, for improvement, for change and for a better way to live. But we should also spend some time loving ourselves and acknowledging it. But the sorry situation is that when we do, we are often thought of as selfish, narcissistic, arrogant, over-confident and maybe even obnoxious.
So, we think:-
- Our nose is too big
- We are fat
- Always late
- Lousy cook
- Messy
- Too ugly
- Bad fashion sense
- Will suck at everything
- Is the worst mother on the planet
- Don't deserve luxury
I just spent less than a minute to type out 10 of my own worst traits and it was easy peasy pie.
Maybe it is not obnoxious to think we are really lovely people. Maybe it is actually healthy to be a little in love ourselves and acknowledge that we are good for something. It takes my kids to tell me that I am a decent mom while I think 'Gosh, that dish I cooked sucked bad, it's so salty I will poison my kids with salt...HOMAIGRED!!!!' It takes a good friend to tell me that while I am always a little late but she loves me anyway because I am such a good friend that she has included my name to the list of people who she will want to be a her son's guardian if anything actually happened to her.
Those are huge compliments and yet, I just nod my head and think, 'Yeah, yeah, yeah...you're just saying that'.
I don't think of compliments seriously but then again, I don't think of criticism too seriously either. I ponder them and go 'O....K.... I guess'. But try this if you are like me....ask yourself 'What do you love most about yourself?" and start to feel a little warm and fuzzy inside.
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XOXO,
Marsha
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