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Show Me A Perfect Parent

Photo credit I am no perfect parent. In fact, I'll be the first to admit that I am FAAAAAAAARRRRR from being a good parent. My kids play Nintendo too much, they Youtube too much, they don't read, are lazy beyond WORDS!!! I don't spend enough time with them and I'm not too good with mind games and chess. They don't go for tuition enough and they CAN get better grades in school if I pushed them enough. There. These past couple of days, I've GIVEN and RECEIVED advice about parenting techniques. But as friends and relatives, we should be able to give and receive advice from others so...there's nothing wrong with that. I listen and I speak. One should listen and speak too. I engaged two parents in a discussion about parenting these past few days. One, I told her that she should be more stern with her kid(s) and two, another parent told me that I should be more focused with mine. Hahahaha. Imagine that. The difference is that in the first instance, this parent refused to admit that there was anything wrong with what she was doing and completely shut me out. In the second instance, I defended my stance and then agreed to disagree with no leftover discord between us. We're just different - we agree on that. But I choose to believe that life is not a race and we don't have to outperform each other. I accept the fact that I should control my kids about the Nintendo thing. I'm making Nintendo far too rich! :-) And my kids are learning way too many 'naughty' language from the internet which I have chastised them about. I accept that and will continue to improve on that aspect. But....others, I choose to stand my ground. And it's OK. Really. Tell me where I may be wrong so that I can improve and I take parenting quite seriously despite all the perving on YouTube that I do. :-) I am no perfect parent....I wish I could be but I can't. I don't have the time to spend with my kids all the time because I have to work at home, I have to write because my father is not rich, I'm not good with stock market and investments and I've not inherited an insane amount of money and my grandfather does not own a casino in Las Vegas. (Aw man, that's just too bad, huh?) But you know what? I try to be. Most of the time.....when I am not too busy writing....or when I am not on YouTube myself. :-) That's what counts, right? I try to be. I am a Nazi when it comes to food, health and happiness. I am not too pushy about grades and how they perform in school....it's OK with me. Really. As long they're happy and that they find what they're looking for. If I make it and I can provide my kids with a luxurious life....HALLELUJAH!! If not, well.......I take what I'm given and give it to my kids. Given all that, I appreciate comments (in a nice way, please) and feedback because I may have overlooked some things because....well, I am no perfect parent. But then again....show me a perfect parent and I'll show you a real life glittery vampire who shines like diamonds under the sunlight.

Comments

Mumsgather said…
Why would you include "sending your kids for more tuition" as better? I think less is better. ;)
angie ng said…
can't even find a perfect person, my friend, what more a prefect parent ... LOL ... can only try our utmost best to be a really great parent and love our children always ... :)

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