Skip to main content

Popping a Girl

So….when are you going to try to pop another one, a girl this time to complete the package?” someone asked me earlier during a family gathering. I choked on the heated reply boiling on top of my head and managed to cringe politely. “No, no. No thanks. Close shop indefinitely. Tutup kedai”, I answered. I don’t know what it is with people. When you have two of a kind, people look at you and have the tendency to suggest that you pop another loaf out to ‘complete the package’. There’s nothing to complete. A family is not a package. To have 2-of-the-same-kind is pretty much the same as having 1-of-each-kind, don’t you think? In case you’re STILL wondering what I am yapping on about here today, it’s about having both sexes for kids. I have lots of friends who have one child (of, apparently, one sex) and two or three kids of the same sex and they have related to me the same predicament. Every family gathering or friendly meeting yields the same result…people would be asking you (if you’re still within the fertile and child-rearing age group) when you’re going to have another one and try for a child of a different sex. Whether the child is a boy or a girl, does it really matter? It’s the same thing and if you spend the time raising the child right, it amounts to a ‘complete package’, anyway. A complete package is all in the mind. As long as we try our best to do what’s right for our kids and ourselves, that’s pretty much enough. And they always tell me something like, “You must have a girl…because boys don’t take care of you when you’re old. It’s not the same wan”. While I think it’s true to a certain extent, I think that’s an unfair stereotype to be cast over men (rare occasion whereby I stand on the men’s side). If you raise the boy well and have a good relationship with your son, there’s absolutely no reason why your son would not take care of you. And besides, our kids are not and should not be our safety nets. We don’t have kids so that there’s someone to take care of us later on. I don’t intend to be my kids’ burden later on and am working towards building a fund for myself and the kids later on in life. So, to me, having a girl to complete the package is not on the cards…it’s not even important, actually. Girl or boy, as long as there’s love and proper education, works out to be pretty much the same thing.
Credit: Photo of Pacifier found from this site

Comments

Jamie said…
aiyooo...I always get these types of questions oso but used to it liao...I dun really blame others for asking me becos they are just showing their concern OR just trying to strike up a conversation ( maybe after too long a period of no see). I truly think that its a "no harm done" type of question if one doesn't delve on it..

Sex=easy,
giving birth = hell,
bringing up = torture, torture, insane, happiness, happines, happiness but damn 99 tough and not that all easy...the pain is worth it..

Just My Two Cents..
Anonymous said…
My family has 5 boys and 1 girl. The most useless is the girl. She never appreciates what my parents did for her. Instead...she condemns my parenst to all my siblings!!

Teh 5 boys in my family are very good to our parents. What does that show?

Doesn't not mean having a daughter is good. In my family...having a daughter is the worst!

To all those morons who kept saying that daughers will take care you when you are old....go have more daughters. See whether they will jaga you when you old!

Killer
Jamie said…
Killer: very well said!! its not the gender that will determine who will jaga you in the end but the way they were brought up..
Anonymous said…
Jamie...i've seen far more obediant sons than daughters. ust coz they are girls does not mean they are angels.

Killer
Marsha Maung said…
jamie, killer, Ahem! Last I checked, I am still a girl....

so....

...then again, I am far from obedient so you're probably right! LOL
Anonymous said…
MArsha...you will ALWAYS be a chick...no matter how old you are. Unless you have a 'secret wish' to wanna have a batang 24hours day between the legs ? hehehe....

Killer

Popular posts from this blog

Space Sweepers (Netflix): Movie Review (2021)

Space Sweeper the Korean Sci-Fi Blockbuster hits Netflix 2021 Image Source: KoreaTimes Let me come clean. The first thing I thought when I saw Song Joong Ki leading the lineup for this movie was ' Is this OK?'  ' Hhhmmm.....what about, you know...his personal life', and as a fan of his previous personal work, I had the same doubt I had when he was casted in 'Descendants of the Sun'.  Sorry, Joong Ki. ðŸ˜³ But the concept of a sci-fi movie in the Korean film platter was enticing. The trailer didn't look half bad either. When it comes to space movies, Hollywood has always been the Big Guy. We expect Hollywood to deliver the big guns and explosions while Kdrama land is all mush, love, arm grabs, ice-cold kiss scenes, love triangles, and of late, time traveling.  So, sci-fi? Interesting. Honestly, I went in with an empty mind which is not necessarily an open one. Ditched the reviews, writeups, Youtube reactions and everything else and hit the 'watch' butto

Maid Side-Kick

I was kind of a little sad when I read the news about this - there will be no live-in Indonesian maids in Malaysia anymore . There are pros and cons to having a live-in maid, as with everything else, but for us, we enjoyed more pros than cons. Back then, when my kids were little, we brought in a family of maids to help with...well, just about everything, and we were like two families merged into one. They ate what we ate, we sleep, they sleep, we shop, they shop, they joke, we laugh, we joke, they laugh...for me, the maid I hired was more like a sister and side-kick to me. For that few years, I was dependent on her to mind-read my schedule and when I need or don't need help. She picked things up quickly and we ended up having lots of moments whereby we were in sync. Today, two of them are on my Facebook and we were gleefully chatting over Facebook Messenger since they've just discovered the wonders of the Internet and Social Media. Since we were more like partners in crim

Stargazer - Stretch Those Sides

I have been doing this pose, part of Cosmic Dance (a type of yoga, I am assuming), called Stargazer pose without knowing it is called Stargazer's pose a lot in the past. You see, sometimes, I don't follow the rules and come up with my own stretches and poses. It is fun. I have on some music, nice, soothing music or just anything I can click on. Then I go with the flow, letting my hair down. Just moving to the music...and that is when I come up with the above Stargazer's pose. This pose really stretches your sides. Keep your eyes on the outstretched hand if you are keeping it pointed to the top, as if you are waving or connecting to a higher energy from the Universe. Your arms will ache a little but hey, toned arms, here you come! :-) For those who want a bigger stretch, it is safe to slowly and gently move the lifted hand towards your back...don't overdo it, listen to your body's complaints and respect it. You don't have to prove anything to anyone, reme